Some people believe that when others dare them or threaten them they have no other choice but to fight.
They assume they must fight or otherwise they’ll be losers; or that they have to choose between fighting and being a victim. Maybe they want to preserve their position on the Winner Ladder, or maybe they don’t want to be considered weak.
But if they truly have no choice, it means that they are not in control of their lives.
A fight makes people into enemies. If they were not enemies before, they are enemies when the fight begins. Having an enemy takes a lot of energy, and it is usually a long-term project. You may not want to spend your energy in that way.
Other people can dare you, hate you, threaten you, or even take a swing at you, but they don’t rule your life. If someone wants you to fight you can choose whether or not you will.
Remember that another person cannot be an enemy without your permission.
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